Interpersonal Competency is choosing a win-win behavior between anger and denial

Readers will know “Emotional Intelligence” is a meme now, a phrase pointing to the skills and practice of healthy interpersonal relations.  Readers may not “Emotional Intelligence” is more of a research-based academic topic and vehicle for New York Times reporter and author Daniel Goleman to lecture to academics and corporate types on  research supporting the…

Why our own internal psyche seems slippery, unstable

Paul Simon wrote a wonderful lyric, “The nearer your destination, the more you’re slip-sliding away.” I believe we have enuf basic research now to explain this phenomena. Start with attention, a capacity we have as soul. When awake, our attention keeps moving. Only practiced meditators with a purpose to hold their attention steady, can  individual…

Freeze-Frame technique-method

Freeze-Frame means telling yourself to stop and freeze whatever reactive pattern you are expressing–when it’s not to your liking. Interrupting your habitual playback gives Conscious waking Self a chance to self-evaluate and choose new behaviors. You know what your TV screen looks like when you press pause; the picture freezes. It’s possible to use this…

How Brain Balance “forked” into two branches

  Between 1985-2000 brain balance practitioners forked into two distinct “branches.” One branch stayed with: – triune brain model, – nutrition, supplements, – the assessment in Chapter 5 of Disconnected Kids by Melillo, – the remedial exercises of Chapter 8 of Disconnected Kids by Melillo. This branch went forward in 2004 with the GAPS Book,…